Blessed Sacrament St. Charles Borromeo Church Newark, NJ issued the following announcement on Sept. 13

How beautiful it would have been if we could all have been born as already made perfect saints. But this is not the case! Called to become saints, it requires that we be sanctified in Christ. [1 Cor 1:2] Today, we received a very clear message from the Lord God through the readings of the Holy Bible. We were told to forgive others of all their trespasses against us. And, our forgiveness should not be just once or twice, but seventy times seven. That does not mean that if we forgive every day for 490 days, then our share of forgiveness has been completed. The seventy times seven means ongoing forgiveness, day after day, week after week, years after years, this being done without counting.

When we do not forgive someone, it is because we are passing judgment on that person. Jesus commanded us not to judge others so that we will not be judged. For by the measure that we judge others, by refusing to forgive them of their trespasses, that same measure will be used against us when our time of judgment arrives. [Mt. 7:1-2]

So how can we perfectly forgive someone without judging? It is by completely forgetting the offenses that were committed by the person. It is by forgiving as a holy child of God, forgiving as God would forgive. In His holiness, God promised, "None of the sins that they have committed shall be remembered against them; they have done what is lawful and right, they shall surely live." [Ezek. 33:16] God shall no longer remember the sins of the sinner who does what is right... He forgives those who trespassed against Him without counting, without looking back, without ever mentioning the trespass again, as if it never happened. That is holy forgiveness.

Brothers and sisters, when we leave here today, let us remember these words, "Being unable to forgive is the greatest obstacle to holiness!" Let us imprint these life saving words on our minds in extra large letters and let us never forget them! Our salvation depends on them!

Many are unable to proceed with their sanctification because they cannot find it in their hearts to forgive. They fall short of the Divine love of God. In fact, did you know that there are more offenders in the prisons who receive the love and mercy of God than there are victims who are free in the world? This end result occurs because offenders spend more time towards reflecting on their sins. An offender is better disposed to acknowledged his guilty heart and conscience that is not at peace. In search for spiritual peace, he is led by the Divine grace of God to admit his guilt, to repent, to confess and to seek salvation through the Lord's abounding mercy and forgiveness. The general attitude of those who are victims of crimes is that they are without sin! No one is without sin! If anyone believes that he is without sin, he is deceiving himself and the truth is not in him. [1 Jn. 1:8]

The soul that cannot forgive does not have the truth of God in its heart. That means that such a person is not righteous and forgiving as God has commanded. While possibly unaware of it, such a person has withdrawn himself as an adopted child of God until such time as he can find the strength in his heart to forgive.

Original source can be found here.