Reverend Joseph E. Kurtz, D.D. Bishop | Archdiocese of Louisville

Those preparing for marriage face numerous decisions, including selecting the wedding party. This choice can be challenging due to potential disappointment or offense among friends and family not chosen.

To simplify this decision, consider choosing individuals who will support your marriage in the long term. Beyond the festivities of the wedding day, these are people who should stand by you as your marriage progresses.

The Catholic Church provides guidance during sacraments through godparents and sponsors. While a wedding party is not required to fulfill religious obligations, having supportive individuals can be beneficial as you uphold your vows.

Consider whether those in your wedding party will remain part of your life beyond the ceremony. Will they be familiar faces in family photo albums, or just reminders of college days? Choose those who will support you through marital challenges, offer comfort during hardships, and maintain a genuine interest in your well-being.

Select friends who encourage perseverance in vows and provide honest feedback when needed. These should be individuals who pray for your marriage and set positive examples for future children—potentially even serving as godparents themselves.

Reflect on which men and women will genuinely fight for your marriage as you make this important decision.